Studies show that
co-parenting works best when both parents are cooperative, respectful, and manage their
emotions. Children will adjust more readily to their new family situation
if parents agree to the shared parenting.
One thing to be careful not to do is criticize your ex-spouse in front
of your child. Often a child will take the negative and apply it to himself.
Remember that your attitude can influence the feelings of love for himself
and you. Co-parenting must be focused on the child and his needs and not
on the adults involved. A
successful co-parenting situation can happen only when both parents set aside their personal needs and wants
in favor of the child they both cherish.
Your co-parenting arrangement must take into consideration the child’s
age and activities as well as the career and personal commitments of each
parent. In the case of infants, the primary care (depending upon the circumstances)
may remain with the mother. As children age, it is beneficial for them
to be with both households and enjoy the parenting of both parents. The
co-parenting often adjusts as they grow older and their activities change.
A very important aspect of co-parenting is having a positive form of communication.
Each parent should have access to the child’s schedule and activities
so they can participate fully as a parent. Use that communication in whatever
form works for you both to discuss the needs of your child without contention.
It is always better to discuss and solve your issues together than turning
it over to the court system.
Listening to your child becomes even more important in a co-parenting situation.
They may want to express their opinion about their schedule or the house
rules. It is essential that you listen and give your child the opportunity
to talk about all the changes in their life. As time goes on, other changes
may occur that affect the co-parenting time sharing. Be flexible and considerate
of your child and your spouse as these changes occur.
If you have questions about life after divorce or handling your divorce
in the best interests of your children, please get in touch with the
Arizona divorce lawyers at Arizona Family Law Attorneys. We are here to answer your questions and
help you feel comfortable with the divorce process.