One of the primary goals of any good parent is to protect their child from
harm; both physical and emotional. Sadly, this becomes particularly difficult
process of divorce. Children of all ages are very sensitive and can become aware of the undercurrents
brought on by a divorce or an impending divorce before parents are even
sure where the problems are heading. Consider implementing these steps
to help lessen the
negative impact of divorce on your children.
Never use your children, under any circumstances, as pawns in your divorce. This should go without saying, but too many innocent children are not
shielded enough from the divorce process. Too often, parents, who are
under distress themselves, bring their children into the matter and attempt
to “turn them” against the other parent. Sometimes this is
done in a purposeful attempt to gain influence on the settlement, but
many are doing it inadvertently. Divorce is a time of high emotions and
if parents aren’t careful, they’ll start parenting by their
negative emotions instead of keeping their child safe from emotional harm
by assuring them that they aren't the reason for nor do they hold
any responsibility related to their parents’ divorce.
Communicate honestly with the children. Don’t pretend nothing is happening. Lying in an effort to protect
your child from divorce simply leaves them with no one to talk to about
it. It’s a well-intentioned attempt at protecting the child, but
it’s not a good idea.
Stay calm and civil with your ex-spouse. It’s very easy to lose control of your emotions in the process of
divorce. It’s normal. But it’s very important that you try
not to expose your children to emotional outbursts. It can leave them
confused and unnecessarily traumatized.
Arizona Family Law Attorneys, it’s our intention to resolve Arizona family law matters in a way
that offers protection to the innocence and emotional health of your children.
If you are considering divorce or if you need assistance with another
Arizona family law matter, get in touch. We want to help.