During the pre-adoption process, many are thrilled to be moving towards
their ultimate goal of
adopting a child, but alongside the thrill is another common emotional reaction to the
process: anxiety. It’s completely normal to feel anxious while navigating
the adoption process. Once the paperwork is completed and the adoption
is finalized, you’ll finally have the child under your care. Everything
will work out fine. You and the child will quickly develop an amazing,
loving and trusting relationship. It’s the expectations many hang
all their hopes on. The problem is that many expect to fulfill all these
expectations without any type of timeline provided for the time it will
take to get there once the adoption is complete.
adoptive parents experience some form of emotional upheaval in the early stages of the adoption.
Some refer to it as post-adoption stress or depression. Child raising
in and of itself can lead to depression. Many modern parents have unreasonably
high expectations for themselves and their child. This is not healthy
or sustainable. As an adoptive parent, as with any parent, you need to
accept that parenting can be difficult. View it as more of a learning
process or journey rather than a test you have to take today – pass or fail.
How to Cope with Post-Adoption Stress or Depression:
If you need to discuss post-adoption stress or depression or if you simply
need more information about the adoption process, get in touch with the
Arizona Family Law Attorneys.
- Parents who fear they are facing post-adoption depression should seek some
help as soon as possible. Don't wait until the problem accumulates
to the point where it is apparent to the child. This could negatively
impact their self-perception and cause harm.
- Check to see if there is a post-adoption support group in your area. If
not locally, find one online that will provide you with access to others
in similar situations. This type of camaraderie amongst similarly situated
parents can be invaluable. You can share advice, stories, etc. Many have
found it to be beneficial when suffering from post-adoption stress or
- Consider therapy – individual or couples could be helpful for you
situation. If you find a good therapist, they could be able to help you
identify the source of your depression and guide you in addressing it
so you can move on.