It’s no secret that divorce court can be a scary prospect; for everyone
except the judges and divorce attorneys. They’re used to it. The
rest worry about it because it’s an unknown. For some the worry
quickly evolves into fear. Fear of the unknown is not a new concept, but
it’s a universally underestimated one.
How do you address the fear of the unknown when facing an upcoming date
in divorce court? The same way you address the fear of the unknown when
facing any situation – knowledge. The best way to stamp out fear
because of the unknown is to make it known through knowledge. It sounds
obvious, but many are too paralyzed by their fear to make even the most
obvious move to remedy the situation.
If you’re scared of divorce court because you don’t know what
to expect, start with a few basics.
You: The only thing you are completely in control of in Divorce Court is you.
You should know the facts of your case. Divorce Court isn’t black
and white. There’s no script or predestined result. Be prepared
by reading the paperwork presented regarding your case prior to arriving
on the scene. Don’t let fear, stress or emotion take over in Court.
It’s normal to be scared, in fact, it would be strange if you weren’t
stressed out. But don't let your emotions be in charge during your
Court date. Tell the truth – even if your spouse lies.
Your Lawyer: You can expect your lawyer to be prepared in Divorce Court. They will
be familiar with all aspects of your case and know the information presented
to the judge. They will be aware of what questions will be asked and what
your testimony will be, etc. There’s no script, but it’s not
completely off the cuff either. You can expect your lawyer to communicate
with your spouse’s lawyer. Family law is a pretty small community
and lawyers frequently go up against each other in a number of cases.
They are expected to communicate and attempt to resolve approachable issues
and narrow the issues that cannot be resolved out of Court for presentation
in Divorce Court. You should expect your divorce attorney to talk to you
throughout the process. They’ll provide you with information regarding
status discussions with your spouse’s lawyer, updates on settlement
potential/narrowing of contested issues, regular status updates on your
The Judge: Expect that his day will be packed with many cases and there may be some
juggling with the scheduling of your case. Cases are typically prioritized
with domestic violence cases receiving top priority, followed by emergency
child custody cases and then…everything else. Expect the Judge
to require both lawyers to provide a time estimate for your case. This
allows for more appropriate scheduling even though estimating the time
needed for a family law case can be extremely difficult. Expect the Judge
to want to know why you are there – why the matter has not been settled.
For more information about what to expect inDivorce Court, contact the
Arizona divorce attorneys at
Arizona Family Law Attorneys today.