How many expectant mothers do you think get asked whether they want a boy
or a girl? The answer is a lot! How many expectant mothers do you think
have a gender preference? The answer is a lot! And this is interesting
because there’s no possibility that they can actually make that
choice. Now consider the interesting phenomenon of gender preference from
a different angle. How many adoptive parents do you think have gender
If you think that most adoptive parents don’t have gender preferences
– you’d be wrong. Most adoptive parents have definite gender
Statistically speaking, 75-80% of adoptive parents that are given a choice
prefer to adopt a girl. It seems particularly significant to note at this
point that there are more boys available for adoption than girls. While
it would be impossible to determine exactly what is behind the statistics
as many adoptive parents themselves would not be able to put into words
the exact reasoning behind their gender preference, experts have been
able to generate several potential causes behind the popularity of girls
when it comes to adoption.
Adoptive Parents Prefer Girls?
- Generally speaking, many women prefer to parent girls (for a multitude
of spoken and unspoken reasons). Since women are often the driving force
behind the adoption process, this could be one factor.
- Research indicates that many women think that their husband is more comfortable
raising a girl. While this perception may not be accurate, it is another
factor to consider.
- The matriarchal nature of society also has a role to play as daughters
are more often the keepers of family traditions, the planners of family
events and parties, the ones who schedule visits with the grandparents,
etc. Adoptive parents may subconsciously be attempting to put themselves
in a good position for long term inclusion in the life of their little
one. Daughters are also more likely to be caregivers for elderly parents.
- Girls are very fun to dress up. While this is in no way monumental or life
altering, it is something that mothers look forward to and may subconsciously
take into consideration when making gender preference decisions.
- The “boys are scary” myth is another factor that leads to the
popularity of girls amongst adoptive parents. Male teens have a negative
image in modern society and parents considering adoption may have this
in mind when they are designating gender preferences.
These are just a few “reasons” experts have considered as factors
behind the popularity of girls amongst adoptive parents, but the list
is nowhere near exhaustive.
If you have questions or concerns regarding adoption or designating
gender preferences for your adoption, please get in touch so you can discuss it with one of the experienced
Arizona adoption lawyers at
Arizona Family Law Attorneys.