Lisa married her forever guy at the age of 20. She planned the perfect
marriage in a comfortable house with a husband that doted on her and the
finishing touch of 2.4 children. She expected domestic bliss, roses filling
the entryway, and a forever happy ending. Instead, she was
divorced by 23.
This is one example amongst many of the twenty-somethings who are married
and divorced before they hit 30. What is behind the upward tick in
twenty-something divorces? From the mouths of twenty-something divorcees, it goes a little something
“I was in it for the ideal. I met him when I was 15 – he was
my first real boyfriend, but really, we hardly knew each other. I was
very emotionally dependent upon him and as we got older that changed.”
“It was just a typical boyfriend/girlfriend things that would have
(and should have) run its course, but I pressured myself to take the next
step towards what was ‘supposed’ to happen. That was to get
married, to get a house and to start a family. I thought it was everything
I’d ever need or want.”
The most recent numbers released from the National Office of Statistics
state that men and women in their twenties exhibit the highest rate of
divorce of all age groups. In the year 2007, this age bracket experienced
26.8 divorces per 1,000 married individuals. This is more than twice the
average rate for other age brackets. This generation’s tendency
towards marriage and divorce in their twenties is even evident amongst
the celebrities: Reese Witherspoon, Billie Piper, Britney Spears, etc.
It’s actually become a part of the population’s mindset. Experts
in social science have even gone so far as to suggest that young divorcees
will often consider their early marriages as learning experiences that
made them more prepared for an eventual, “grown up” relationship.
As is often the case with social phenomena, the pendulum now seems to be
swinging in the opposite direction, the upcoming generation is leaning
more towards experimenting with different partners prior to marriage.
In fact, such a hasty decision to get married is seen as curious to the
“new” twenty-somethings. Most young adults are not opting
to reject marriage entirely in favor of co-habitation or simply delay
it. The average age for tying the knot for the next generation of twenty-somethings
leans more towards 29 for women and 31 for men.
Projecting social cadences is an intense endeavor, but the fact of the
matter is that marriage and divorce are serious issues to consider in
modern society. And it’s a good thing that young people are embracing
an awareness of the serious side of marriage. Yet no matter what age you
are or how well prepared you were for marriage before you took that step,
there are no guarantees.
If you need to discuss filing for divorce, or if you have questions about
a divorce you are currently filing, please get in touch with one of the
Arizona divorce lawyers at Arizona Family Law Attorneys. We can assist you and make sure that you
have a thorough understanding of the divorce process and what to expect.