Many important and complex legal matters, such as matters involving child
custody or child visitation, can come up when a divorced parent with children
remarries. A remarriage can also give rise to major emotional issues for
all of the parties involved, including: the remarrying parent, their ex,
their children, the person they are marrying and their new stepchildren
(if the person they are marrying also has kids). One time of the year
in particular that can be an emotionally tricky time for new stepfamilies
and the individuals connected to them is the holiday season.
Recently, an article on the Huffington Post's website gave some holiday
season tips for
divorced parents who have recently remarried.
Some of these tips regarded organization and communication. Setting up
clear plans regarding the holidays, such as having schedules in place
regarding where the children will be during the holidays, can help increase
the predictability of the holiday season. Clear communication with all
parties involved when it comes to holiday plans can also help when it
comes to predictability. Predictability can be very valuable at times
of great change, such as the time following the formation of a new stepfamily.
Other of the tips regarded taking efforts to have the right attitude and
demeanor going into the holidays. Specifically, the article suggested
trying to: stay positive, be self-compassionate, avoid expressions of
anger against one's ex-spouse when with one's children and avoid
letting emotions lead to rash actions. Having the right attitude and demeanor
can affect a person and all those around them in a very positive way.
The article also gave tips regarding holiday traditions. Such traditions
are often a major part of the holiday season for families. The article
recommended keeping some past family traditions and also starting some
new ones. Such an approach can keep some of the familiarity of the holidays
for children, while also giving them the chance to form new experiences
with their new stepfamily.
As this shows, there are many things that parents that are starting a new
stepfamily can do to try to help make the holiday season emotionally easier
for everyone involved.
While the holiday season can be difficult for stepfamilies at times, it
can also contain moments of great joy and fun. We hope that all families
here in Arizona, including stepfamilies, have a wonderful holiday season
Source: The Huffington Post, "10 Tips For Navigating The Holidays With Your Stepfamily," Terry Gaspard, Dec. 19, 2013