The goal of any
open adoption is to be a positive and beneficial experience for all involved: the birth
parents, the adoptive parents and the child. The “open” nature
of the adoption allows for potentially meaningful connections through
ongoing contact between the birthparents and the adoptive family.
Open adoption plans have become more and more popular in the United States over the years.
The open adoption plan tends to offer birthparents and additional sense
of security as well as comfort as they will have access to continued information
regarding how their child is growing up. Many adoptive families also feel
the open adoption plan is beneficial as they will have continued access
to potentially pertinent family history information, cultural touchstones
for their child, and immediate answers to any birth parent related questions
their child may have in the future.
For a successful open adoption, make sure your adoption plan includes these
key elements: trust, flexibility and open communication.
The open adoption should be based on a mutual respect that enables both
birthparents and adoptive parents to feel they have an honest and trustworthy
relationship with the other. Trust is necessary for the birth parents
to choose the adoptive parents and continues to be a necessity, as they
trust that the open nature of the plan will stay in effect over time.
Flexibility is necessary as both the birth parents and the adoptive parents
make attempts to meet each other’s needs throughout the adoption
process and throughout the open adoption. Flexibility should revolve around
the child’s best interests at all times; which will sometimes require
changes. Flexibility amidst the guidelines and boundaries that are set
from the beginning makes the necessary adjustments and changes possible
as the child grows and develops.
The point of an “open” adoption is that it is open. This requires
communication. Adoptive parents should remember to consider the birthparents’
situation and be empathetic during communications – particularly
immediately following an adoption placement. Birthparents should also
attempt to be empathetic to the needs of the adoptive parents as they
go through typical periods of adjustment. The open (and ongoing) nature
of the communication in the open adoption allows for an evolving relationship
between the adoptive families and birth parents that can make it possible
for the child to fully understand their own adoption story.
If you have additional questions regarding open adoptions in Arizona, please
get in touch so we can provide the answers. Contact one of the experienced
adoption lawyers at
Arizona Family Law Attorneys today.