According to 2015 census data the average lifespan for men is 77 years.
The average lifespan for women is 81 years. Compare this to the average
lifespans in 1970 (67 for men and 74 for women) and it isn’t hard
to come to the conclusion that the fact that we’re living longer
may be the reason behind the increasing number of decades long marriages
that are ending in divorce.
In today’s social and cultural setting, many individuals unhappy
in their marriages will let go if doing so means a successful search for
a happier, more authentic life. And it doesn’t seem to matter if
that individual is 50 or 60 years old and in a marriage that has lasted
for the majority of their life. The fact is, decades long marriages are
ending – more than ever before. The only question left is why?
3 Common Reasons Decades Long Marriages Are Ending in
- Infidelity – one of the most commonly cited reasons for divorce regardless
of age, infidelity is seen by many experts in relationships as more of
a symptom of a deeper problem in the marriage. Regardless, it is the symptom
that finally breaks the bond that is keeping many husbands and wives together.
- Empty Nesting and Retiring – Between the kids leaving home and growing
older leading to retirement…some couples find that the sudden accumulation
of time spent together leads them directly to divorce court. Decades spent
raising children and focusing on a career and home come to an abrupt halt
when the couple suddenly needs to spend a lot of time with someone they
aren’t even sure they like.
- Wanting Independence – In many cases, women who were financially
dependent upon their husbands for years will long for independence as
they grow older. This is particularly true if they go back to work after
the children grow up and leave home. Statistically speaking, the more
financially stable a woman becomes, the more it will destabilize a marriage
that is already less than happy.
This isn’t to say that all retired couples don’t enjoy each
other’s company or that every empty nester is going to get divorced.
These are just common reasons amongst those who DO get divorced. No marriage
is exempt from the dangers of a fading relationship. No marriage is exempt
from the damage that can be done through acts of infidelity. No marriage
is exempt from outside influences and negative reactions to major life
changes. Difficulties that can test the strength of a marriage do not
stop because you are getting older.
If you have questions or concerns about obtaining a
divorce in Arizona, please get in touch so we can provide the answers. Contact one of the
experienced divorce lawyers at
Arizona Family Law Attorneys today.