separation and divorce can be one of the most difficult trials of a person’s life. Mental
health experts have indicated that the pain of a divorce can sometimes
rival that of grieving the death of a loved one. If you are going through
this type of trial in your own life, remind yourself everyday that while
it can be horrible, surviving divorce is also possible. Make an effort
to cope with the pain and stress of separation and divorce by finding
out what worked for others in similar situations and see if it might be
what you need as well.
If you need additional assistance with your
legal separation or Arizona divorce, please get in touch with the Arizona divorce lawyers at
Arizona Family Law Attorneys
as soon as possible. We can help you make plans that will help you minimize
the negative impact of your divorce on your life and the lives of your kids.
- Seek out a Support Network: it may be a really good friend, a group of
friends, support groups for others in like circumstances, family, etc.
- Redefine Yourself: When you go through a divorce, you’re suddenly
no longer part of a couple. This altered reality can be a relief to some
and a terrifying prospect to others. Don’t let losing that one definition
of who you are crush you. Redefine who you are – that was just one
side of you. You are so much more.
- Utilize Words of Affirmation: Regardless of whether or not you can make
yourself feel it each morning or not, choose a quote that applies to your
situation and spins it in a positive light. Read it when you wake up in
the morning. Set it as your phone’s wallpaper. Repeat it out loud
to yourself when you feel yourself slipping into melancholy. Make it your
mantra for the day and focus your mind on it every time you feel overwhelmed
by the negative energy surrounding you. We’ll even give you a good
first suggestion, “Life becomes easier when you learn to accept
an apology you never got.” –Robert Brault
- Minimize the Impact on the Kids: Pain is inevitable, a major relationship
is ending. But you do have the power to protect your children from similar
levels of disruption and pain. Keep things as amicable as possible. You’re
dealing with an overwhelming amount of grief, but you should always attempt
to avoid criticizing the other parent in from of the children.