There are very few who would honestly agree that the ending of a serious
relationship is easy. Even fewer would be able to embrace the ending of
the emotional side of the relationship along with the legal technicalities
of a legal bond (marriage that needs a dissolution of marriage at the
end of the relationship). It’s just never easy. Regardless of why
the marriage is ending or whether or not you wanted a divorce, the breakup
itself can feel a reversal of everything you expected your life to be.
It’s a moment when your world is turned upside down and, as such,
can be a major trigger for many feelings – painful at worst and
unsettling at best. If you need help figuring out how to cope with the
difficulty of divorce so you can move on, you aren’t alone.
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- Remind yourself (frequently) that it is okay to have different feelings:
sad, angry, exhausted, confused, lost, frustrated, etc. The intensity
of the feeling may have you wondering if there is something wrong with
you, but it’s normal to feel anxious and upset about your future.
Accept that your reactions will decrease in intensity over time. Even
in instances when being IN the marriage was extremely unhealthy bordering
on scary, leaving it can still seem like a terrifying prospect simply
because we fear the unknown.
- Let yourself off the hook a little bit. You have permission to feel upset
and to function at lower than optimum levels for a bit. No one would expect
any different; don’t expect it from yourself. It’s hard to
say how you will respond, but if you find yourself less productive on
the job, at home or in your other personal relationships, just know that
that’s to be expected because you aren’t superhuman. You need
some time to heal and reorient yourself and recharge your metaphorical battery.
- Don’t retreat from your friends and family. Forcing yourself to go
through the ordeal alone is not a good idea. Share your feelings with
the people who love and support you. You will need them to form a solid
support group for you during this time. Many even turn to official support
“groups” where they can meet and talk to others in similar
situations. The point being – avoid isolation. It can increase stress
levels, decrease your ability to focus, and disrupt your normal working
patterns and overall health. If you need professional help, get it. No
one would blame you for needing a bit of help during this emotionally