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How to Cope with a Divorce

How to Cope with a Divorce

There are very few who would honestly agree that the ending of a serious relationship is easy. Even fewer would be able to embrace the ending of the emotional side of the relationship along with the legal technicalities of a legal bond (marriage that needs a dissolution of marriage at the end of the relationship). It’s just never easy. Regardless of why the marriage is ending or whether or not you wanted a divorce, the breakup itself can feel a reversal of everything you expected your life to be. It’s a moment when your world is turned upside down and, as such, can be a major trigger for many feelings – painful at worst and unsettling at best. If you need help figuring out how to cope with the difficulty of divorce so you can move on, you aren’t alone.

Coping with Separation and Divorce:

  1. Remind yourself (frequently) that it is okay to have different feelings: sad, angry, exhausted, confused, lost, frustrated, etc. The intensity of the feeling may have you wondering if there is something wrong with you, but it’s normal to feel anxious and upset about your future. Accept that your reactions will decrease in intensity over time. Even in instances when being IN the marriage was extremely unhealthy bordering on scary, leaving it can still seem like a terrifying prospect simply because we fear the unknown.
  2. Let yourself off the hook a little bit. You have permission to feel upset and to function at lower than optimum levels for a bit. No one would expect any different; don’t expect it from yourself. It’s hard to say how you will respond, but if you find yourself less productive on the job, at home or in your other personal relationships, just know that that’s to be expected because you aren’t superhuman. You need some time to heal and reorient yourself and recharge your metaphorical battery.
  3. Don’t retreat from your friends and family. Forcing yourself to go through the ordeal alone is not a good idea. Share your feelings with the people who love and support you. You will need them to form a solid support group for you during this time. Many even turn to official support “groups” where they can meet and talk to others in similar situations. The point being – avoid isolation. It can increase stress levels, decrease your ability to focus, and disrupt your normal working patterns and overall health. If you need professional help, get it. No one would blame you for needing a bit of help during this emotionally stressful time.
If you need to talk to someone about getting an Arizona divorce or how you will possibly make it through the divorce process intact, please get in touch with the Arizona divorce lawyers at Arizona Family Law Attorneys today.
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